Posts with the category “re-engage”

Pursue peace with your spouse because Christ pursued peace with you.The goal of this lesson is to help participants realize that when conflict occurs in their marriage, they often have a part in it. To make peace with their spouse they must take full responsibility for their part without excuse, blame-shifting, or any expectation that their spouse will own their side of the conflict. This lesson w...  Read More

Forgive your spouse as God forgave you.The goal of this lesson is to correct some common misunderstandings about forgiveness, then to help couples develop a sound, biblical view of forgiveness. At its core, forgiveness is a decision to pardon an offense and give up the right to be repaid. It is a transaction between you and God that is independent of your spouse. This is a crucial lesson, especial...  Read More

Communicate with your spouse with the goal of mutual understanding.The goal of this lesson is to help participants understand that communication with your spouse is not about getting your point across, or winning the argument, or being right, but it is to understand one another. The lesson focuses first on identifying each spouse’s negative communication patterns and how to overcome them, then on ...  Read More

Treat your spouse as more significant than yourself.The goal of this lesson is to help participants see that too often their focus in marriage is more on what they can get for themselves rather than how they can serve their spouse. A selfless, spouse-centered focus should be the natural result from truly embracing God’s grace as described in the previous lesson. Putting your spouse’s needs before ...  Read More

Receive God’s grace in order to extend God’s grace.The goal of this lesson is to help participants see that the only way they can have the marriage that God wants for them is to receive God’s grace. Once you have tasted and seen that the Lord is good, his love compels you to extend that grace to your spouse. Too many couples have a warped view of God’s love, that they must somehow earn his favor, ...  Read More

LESSON 2:  BROKENNESS LEADER'S GUIDEKEY CONCEPTAdmit your brokenness and inability to love your spouse like God loves you.The goal of this lesson is to help participants recognize that they play a part in any of the problems in their marriage, even though many came to re|engage believing their spouse is the problem. The quote from John McGee is the one that truly marks re|engage and encourages spo...  Read More

Embrace God’s definition of love.The goal of this lesson is for participants to realize their view of love is too small. God’s standard of love in 1 Corinthians 13 is enormous, and you need his help to love your spouse as you should. For couples that express little hope for their marriage, reinforce that love “hopes all things” so encourage them to trust in the Lord and in the re|engage process. Q...  Read More